There are times when we know what we want but we are unable to hold onto it. Often, we are not able to accept anything new simply because there isn’t room for it in our lives. We have to let go of the things that no longer serve us to allow room for what we do want.
As much as we want to achieve our dreams there is often a part of us that harbours a resistance to our desires. If we are honest with ourselves, we can admit that despite our intense yearning for our dreams to become a reality, there is also a part of us that doesn’t believe it could or should actually happen. It is this skeptical part that is not allowing you to receive the things that you desire. The strength of your desires is weakened by the underlying disbelief in your ability to get them.
Our body and mind is in its most natural state when it is at peace. When you are in a state of peace you are in a better place to receive without resistance. Resistance is created in the body and mind when emotions of panic, fear, shame or lack are present. A good indication of inner resistance is to become aware of the way you feel when thoughts of your desire come up. Notice what is happening to your body. Is your breath constricted or full? Is there tension in your body or is it relaxed? Do you feel excited or weary? Any resistance you may feel in your body is indicative of an inner resistance to the idea of achieving your desires. Any time you encounter resistance, recognize that it is taking up the space that would allow for your desires to come to fruition.
The process of releasing your resistance is a gradual one, but every step that melts your resistance brings you closer to relaxing into, and allowing in, something new. Releasing your resistance begins with being able to let go of your attachment to the way you think you are going to reach your goals. When we attach ourselves to how and when something should happen, any deviation from that course causes us to resist what is currently happening. Instead of worrying about how your desire will be achieved, focus on what you want. This generates an energy of attraction that will draw things to you that support the fulfillment of your desires, but if that energy encounters resistance it will go elsewhere. If your focus gets diverted to what you cannot or don’t have, more energy goes into that and more of what you don’t want starts showing up in your life.
It is important to understand that we cannot just simply think ourselves out of resistance. Desire is a feeling, a passion, and it’s the vibrational energy of that feeling in which the power of desire lies. Inner resistance is also an energetic feeling, only this feeling weakens or blocks our desires. We want to gradually clear our mind and body from the hold resistance has in keeping us from what we want. Start becoming aware of how good or bad you feel as you take steps toward your goals. Notice physical and emotional signs of resistance and acknowledge that this resistance is diverting energy from your true desires.
Becoming aware of what is taking up space in your mind gives you the ability to see what is serving you in your life and what is not. As you get clarity on what is working in your life, this insight and awareness makes it possible to make changes and to bring new things into your life. You cannot take in anything new until you let go of what is not working for you.
As much as we want something, there is always a part of us that resists our desires. When you become aware of its existence you can work to melt that resistance, allowing room for your desires to flourish.
“Letting go of what you no longer need opens the space that allows you to become more of who you are.” – Dr. Julie Doobay
Copyright Dr. Julie Doobay 2020