We’ve all been there, the alarm clock goes off and you think to yourself “do I really have to get out of bed?” It takes a few minutes, but you rationalize that it is in your best interest to start your day and get to work.
What about situations where the only person you are accountable to is yourself? Do you often put off doing things that would enhance your life because “you don’t feel like it”? Instead you wait until you feel like it. But in the meantime you put off doing those things that you know would make your life more fulfilling.
What are we missing out on while waiting a few hours, days, weeks, or even years until we “feel like it?” If you think about it, what we’re really doing is waiting and hoping that somehow something or someone will fill us with the motivation, desire and energy to do something.
Our dominant thoughts, and the things that we choose to focus on, have the greatest impact on the way we feel. Often we know what we should be doing but don’t take action because we’re waiting until we “feel like doing it”. To compound things, if you then look at people who have succeeded at what you’re striving for as the enemy, it can be easy to start feeling resentment, shame and frustration. The reality is everyone at some point has had difficulty staying motivated and focused. So instead of finding reasons why it was easier for someone else to succeed, shift your focus and choose to see what is possible. Know that is “okay” and completely normal to not always feel motivated to “do something”.
The key to getting things done is to stop wishing that you felt something that you don’t in order to begin. The fact that you don’t “feel” like doing it doesn’t mean that you can’t do it. Getting wrapped up in the idea that you need to get motivated before you decide to do something just encourages you to procrastinate. Accept whatever emotion that you are feeling, allow yourself to feel it (negativity and all) and then start doing what you didn’t feel like doing. Usually the feeling of “I don’t want to” starts to dissipate. Either way, you’re still one step closer to where you wanted to be.
Think of a time when you were in such a state that you didn’t want to go anywhere, see anyone, or do anything. However, someone begged and pleaded with you to join them in some activity. You reluctantly agreed but were convinced that you were not going to enjoy it. Maybe, after a little while, you forgot about how much you didn’t want to be out there and you actually started having fun. Initially you didn’t “feel” like doing anything, but you did it anyway and ended up enjoying yourself! Frustration and negativity sets in when you get stuck thinking that you need to feel something that you don’t. Taking the action before you “feel” like doing it can allow for positive changes in your mood and energy.
It’s human nature that there will be times when we will find ourselves not wanting to do anything. To achieve our goals and dreams, we have to have the ability to recognize our lack of “feeling” like doing something when it comes up, and more importantly, to then give ourselves the permission, and cultivate an impulse, to accept and move through this feeling. We do not have to wait until we “feel” like it, in fact we may never “feel” like it until we start “doing” it.
“Getting what you want can be effortless. When what you’re doing is fuelled by passion it doesn’t feel like work, it just feels right.” — Dr. Julie Doobay
Copyright Dr. Julie Doobay 2017